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This Rob Ford thing is so embarrassing I don’t even think there’s a need for me to comment on it. Luckily, that’s not the only thing going on in the world.
See what else is up below:
- Everyday Jet Lag - This is something I definitely struggle with each morning. Not everyone’s body clock is wired the same, it’s unfortunate that the world is defined by morning people.
- 62 Questions we Still Have For Rob Ford This article is a couple weeks old, meaning we have about 62 more to add to this list.
- The Little Label That Could Check out this great podcast on Indie 88 on Arts & Crafts
- The Top 10 Toronto Punk Bands of All Time do you agree on these choices?
- 32 Bachelor Hacks That Will Help Improve Everyone’s Lives These are actually kinda helpful.
- The 10 Most Annoying Concert Behaviours I may be semi-guilty of number 1, but I never do it for the whole show and I try to be mindful of it, because I rage at everything else on this list when I experience it at a show.
- The 13 Most Insidious, Pervasive Lies of the Modern Music Industry These are interesting…
- You Can Not Devalue Music I love this article, definitely worth the full read.
- The Owners Of Parts and Labour are Opening up a Burger Shop on Queen West - just what my hood needs, ANOTHER burger shop.
- Leadership Lessons from Fortune’s Most Powerful Women Summit 2013 Love this.
- Long & McQuade CEO on family owned business success
- How Selling Out Saved Indie Rock
- Bob Dylan “Like A Rolling Stone” – Official Interactive Video THIS IS SO COOL! Check it out now if you haven’t yet, but be sure you’re on a fast computer or it might freeze up.
- NMPA Targets Unlicensed Lyric Sites, Rap Genius Among 50 Sent Take-Down Notices We knew it would happen one day.
- QOTSA’s new interactive video Not as cool as Bob’s but still worth checking out.
- There’s a Bruce Springsteen Religion Class for College Kids Who Worship “The Boss” Where was this when I was still in school?! Amazing.
- Listen: Lorde covers Tears for Fears’ “Everybody Wants To Rule The World” Beautiful cover.
- Arcade Fire, Please Don’t Ask Me to Wear “Formal Attire” to Your Arena Show Yeah – this is dumb. Arcade Fire really needs to give up the gimmicks already, it’s getting tired. I miss when they were focused on making great music instead of marketing ploys.
- Switzerland’s Proposal to Pay People for Being Alive This is awesome.
- Rob Ford Denies “Eating Pussy” During Live, Televised Press Conference This might be the funniest thing in the entire Ford saga.
- The nine most outrageous things that Rob Ford has said in the past 24 hours
- Toronto city council votes to strip Ford of his powers HELL YES. Finally.
- How Feminism Hurts Men Another interesting read.
- 50 Pictures in Perfect Timing Check these out, awesome.
- Finally, watch this great Manchester punk rock documentary from 1977:
My favourite cover band of them all is playing their largest venue yet – The Phoenix – on Saturday, and I can’t wait to finally see them again!
This time they’re taking on classics from the beloved movie Wayne’s World, and calling the night, of course, Dwayne’s Dworld.
The band’s shows have become somewhat legendary at this point, and their Fleetwood Mac Rumours night may go down as one of my favourite shows of the year. Yes – I realize saying a cover band’s show was among my faves isn’t exactly hip for a blogger, but that’s how great I still think they are. Sometimes you want to see a show that will guarantee a night of amazing tunes you know and love played by talented musicians, so you can dance your ass off with your friends – and that is what they always provide.
In the spirit of giving, Young Lions has offered up a pair of tickets to giveaway to you guys so you can get in on what will likely be their last show of the year.
To win, just comment below with the name of your favourite DG covered song, using an email address (only where it asks for your email – not in the body) I can contact you at if you win.
Facebook fans get an extra entry by liking the status about this giveaway, as always!
You can also snag tickets now for $15 via Ticketfly, Soundscapes and Rotate This, should you prefer not to wait and risk missing out.
Wow, what a week. It started with the loss of one of the most important and influential people in my (and so many others) life, and ended with the celebratory Halloween day news that YES, Toronto – the Rob Ford crack video does exist – though you must be a complete idiot if you ever doubted for a second that it did.
I have a whole lot to say about Lou, but it deserves it’s own post. So for now, read up on what everyone else had to say about him – along with my thoughts on all the other links below:
- Lou Reed: 1942-2013: NME Obituary
- John Cale Pays Tribute to Lou Reed
- Artists, Fans Pay Respect to Lou Reed
- A Reason to Keep Singing Will Sheff talks about Lou.
- Stuart Berman on Lou Reed If you only read one link about this brilliant man, this should be it. Stuart is the only one who really articulated how I feel about him.
- “Goodbye, You Magnificent Bastard” – A Tribute to Lou Reed
- RIP Lou Bega Proof that some people are really, really dumb – and these dumb people also somehow think this counts as humour.
- Slate: “Stop Getting Drunk, Stop Getting Raped” It’s sickening to me that Slate posted this article at all.
- 31 Things That Are Not an Invitation to Rape #truth. Despite the article above – the fact is, being a female and getting drunk doesn’t mean it’s okay to rape me. I know, shocking – but it’s true!
- Dear Prudence: Let’s Just Keep Blaming Women For Their Rapes, I Guess Yep. At least, if you’re an old, conservative, shitty female news outlet writer desperately looking for hits.
- David Bowie’s new video for Love Is Lost pays tribute to his past characters This is great.
- The Mysterious Case of Elisa Lam Since it was Halloween last night, and the party continues tonight – here’s something to give you nightmares. Seriously.
- The Kanye West Daily Affirmation Soundboard Thanks for the pep talk, Yeezus!
- How One Band’s Fans Warped Online Music Charts It’s not that hard, apparently.
- Marissa Nadler on Elliot Smith
- An Elliot Smith Tribute Concert: Why? Wish I could have been there for this.
- The Best Rock Bars in Toronto Do you agree with this list?
- Honest Ed’s Property Sold to a B.C. Developer Damn. But I will say I’m on the side that says no one really cares about the inside – it reminds me of the horrible second hand stores my mom used to take me to when I was very young – nothing there looks usable save for the toiletries in the very front. Any dollar store can beat it. In 10 years of living here I’ve only ever been inside twice – both times to show bemused friends from out of town what it was. But the outside is an epic visual landmark and the Annex just won’t look right without it.
- Rob Ford Leads Reporters Through Haunted Office Well, I thought this would be this week’s horrid Rob Ford highlight – still trying to get the nightmare of him asking us to touch his little snake out of my head – but then it got much much worse/better…
- The Rob Ford Crack Scandal Finally, the cops tell us what we’ve known all along about the worst mayor in the history of Canada.
- Rob Ford says he won’t resign after Toronto police say they found video
- Toronto Police Say They Have the Alleged Crack Video
- 10 Easy Things That Will Make You Happier You’ll need to do these after all those bad news links, I know I did.
- Why Should We Care about a Blogger Who Tricks Men into Dinner Dates? So a Toronto blogger was making waves this week for scamming “off the boat” guys into expensive dinner dates and never talking to them again. When I first heard about it, my initial reaction was mixed – in that I kind of get the girls who are saying “Good for her – lots of men on those dating sites join and take women out just to use them for pussy and never call them again.” I know this first hand because I worked for one of those shitty hookup sites for 3 years during college, so I watched as droves of delusional (and mostly married) guys actually believed that a girl like her would be interested in just fucking them for free, no strings attached (even though the accounts with pictures of girls like her were ALL FAKE – as is the case for every hookup site men pay for – women don’t need such a site). It was a nauseating experience that made me think very little of the male population for a long time – but it was a ridiculously easy, well paying job and I took some pleasure in toying with these cheaters. But the not a horrible human who still wants to have faith in humanity side of me agrees more with this article:
“Erin’s blog is just another example in Toronto’s pathetic attempt to sensationalize our fear of intimacy with so-called “scandal.” Just look at the back page of the The Grid with its terrible columns “Dating Diaries” and “The Hookup.” Two mild-mannered people attempt to feign interest in each other while they take a ceramics class or some other dumb shit and then rate each other’s hair with a score of “7”… I think, as Erin gets older, she’ll learn relationships can’t be qualified into material goods. It’s a lot harder to find someone who returns your fucking text messages and still showers you with kindness, sympathy, and a warm body in bed when you lie, make selfish choices, and fuck up.”
And if we are so disgusted by the way men use women for what they want – sex, we shouldn’t be petty enough to congratulate this “get even” mentality of women using men for their money. Adults don’t agree with either side of the coin – using people – no matter what you’re using them for, no matter if you’re male or female – is pathetic and sociopathic. And now that everyone knows who this girl is because she is somehow stupid enough to post selfies, there’s a fat chance she’s ever gonna find someone who will actually want to be with her in the future – once she’s ate her way through Toronto’s dining scene and actually wants a relationship. I am reminded of that disturbing movie The Shape Of Things.
- How Feel Good Viral Machines Like Upworthy and and Buzzfeed Filter Reality A must read.
- Lost and Found: Classic Rock Shows on Youtube
- Arcade Fire’s ‘Reflektor’: Still devoid of wit, subtlety and danger, now with bongos This is way too harsh, but I have to agree with all the negative press on this album. Watching them on SNL was such a WTF moment for me – they looked and sounded absolutely absurd and goofy. When Funeral came out, I fell deeply in love with the genuine emotions they captured, but it’s been a downhill slide ever since.
- How to Listen to Music: A Vintage Guide to the 7 Essential Skills This is excellent.
- 20 Musicians Carved into Jack-O-Lanterns Happy Halloween!
- Finally, this unreleased Kurt Cobain interview popped up on YouTube last week, it’s great:
Hey everyone! As you may have noticed from the silence, I’ve been very busy adjusting to getting back into the working in an office world. Spent a week in Austin as well (post to come), so things have been slow around here.
This late TGIF has a ton of great links to make up for it:
- Why Target, Whole Foods Are Making a Play For Vinyl Everyone’s doing it!
- The 30 Happiest Facts of All Time Love this.
- The Habits of Supremely Happy People How many of these do you do?
- Dear Daughter: I Hope you Have Awesome Sex This is one of the best thing’s I’ve read in a long time. I wish more fathers would look at their daughters as humans who deserve fulfilling lives, rather than posessions they own.
- An Open Letter to my Son About Sex This isn’t quite as well written, but the sentiment is similarly awesome. Sons need to be taught that sex isn’t just about them, if they’re gonna learn to do it right.
- Nirvana’s ‘In Utero’ And The Problem Of Authenticity At Work Another great article we can all relate to.
- Solving Gen Y’s Passion Problem It’s the idea that we should all go for our passion that some think is the problem. I think the problem is most people aren’t willing to work hard enough long enough to see their passion through into a career.
- 11 Of Canada’s Best New Record Stores
- How To Protect Your Hearing Great advice. I really, really need to start implimenting it.
- Want to Win an Award? Become a Canadian Musician says bitter Canadian musician This article really made me feel sad for him. To write an article about how everyone in Canadian music has won an award but you, but you’re proud to be different in that way – doing it on your own – is so fucking absurd and delusional. He claims everyone calling him bitter missed the point – his point is very thinly veiled and obvious. If there are SO many awards and it’s so easy to win them, maybe you haven’t won because your music is even worse than the music that does win them? Not to mention, in most countries – like the States – there is about a 1000 times more awards given out every year. Why no comment on that? The percentage of awards given out in this country is MUCH smaller than in many, many others.
- Chvrches’ Lauren Mayberry: ‘I will not accept online misogyny’ You go girl! I may not really be on the Chvrches bandwagon yet, but I love that she wrote this. It needed to be said.
- You’re the Fucking Problem (Promoters) and (Fans) and (Musicians) Love how this guys tells it like it is, to everyone in the music industry. Must reads.
- How Movie Theatres Should be Laid Out YESSS! Yes please. Do this, now. Don’t wanna actually stfu and WATCH the movie? INTO THE DOME, MOTHERFUCKER!
- Louis C.K.’s Explanation of Why He Hates Smartphones Is Sad, Brilliant Love this man. So much truth right there.
- Rob Ford Talks Music in Texas Too bad he didn’t realize we already have a few great music festivals…. …. um.
- The Best Live Music Venues in Toronto Do you agree?
- Sam the Record Man sign lives to fight another day Thank jebus.
- Major Stanley Kubrick exhibition coming to Toronto Um, are you as excited about this as I am?
- If the 1% stifles New York’s creative talent, I’m out of here David Byrne is on a role…check this one out as well: The Internet Will Suck all Creative Content Out of the World
- Is Music the Key to Success? Certaintly doesn’t hurt to learn how to play an instrument, that’s for sure.
- Dear Guy Who Just Made my Burrito The funniest thing I read this week. Imagine eating that? Disgusting.
- See the Delightful Title Cards for the Cast of Wes Anderson’s Grand Budapest Hotel I am also incredibly, rediculously excited for this movie!
- 21 Reasons It’s Awesome To Have Your Sister As Your Best Friend Truth.
- 19 Situations That Are Impossibly Difficult for the Socially Awkward More truth. I am always late because of point #1 and I strictly go to Japanese salons because of #3 (and they do the best hair).
- Why is Dancing so Good for Your Brain? Because it’s fun! Endorphins for the win.
- How To Get Flat Abs, Have Amazing Sex and Rule the World in Eight Easy Steps lol, it’s not what you think. Just read.
- 27 Dogs Freaking Out About Autumn Leaves Your dose of cute for the day.
- Finally, watch Toronto’s own choir!choir!choir! perform my beloved Elliott Smith’s Needle In The Hay, to pay respect to the ten years (on Monday) that he’s been gone:
My love of this LCD Soundsystem song (and that lyric in particular) is well documented here. I relate to it with every fiber of my being. As September marks my 10th anniversary of living in Toronto, I am overwhelmed at just how true it is.
I spent the first 5 years trying to get with the plan… aka at York, going to school, going through the motions of getting a degree I felt I had to have purely because NO ONE else in my entire family had one and I just wanted to do it to prove to myself that I could. I am one of those rare kids that was born in the 80s to parents that actually told me NOT to pursue post secondary education because they didn’t want me to be saddled with debt (which I surely still am). They wanted me to live in Welland and work at Wal-Mart and live with them until I could afford a place of my own and have a nice, safe, happy little life – and most of my cousins have taken this path – and I certainly respect it and am at times jealous of them with their cars and their money and the ease of it all – but my god. I couldn’t wait to get out of there.
There are small town people and there are city people. City people are usually just small town people with insanely ridiculous dreams.
My first five years felt like a waste. I couldn’t figure it out. I was lost and scared and so incredibly alone. Toronto couldn’t be more different from Welland. The only things they shared in common were being located in Ontario. Sure it’s only a 1.5 hour drive, but going from being a 17 year old high school student on top of the world in a graduating class of 350 to an 18 year old in a sea of millions of people at a school where 350 was the average first year class size, far removed from the heart of the city – in a program so open I had no idea what I was supposed to be focusing on – stuck with a roommate who couldn’t be more different, and so far away from all my friends – was all at once both exciting and heartbreaking.
Toronto ate me up and spit me out. I became lost in the internet because I was so unable to do all the things I thought I was here to do, between school and work and all of it. The first five years are a blur – they are so unimportant because I was so unhappy all I could focus on was going somewhere else – I wanted New York, Portland, LA, San Fran, Austin, New Orleans – you name it – I just wanted to go somewhere where I felt like I might be able to have a life and meet people like me. It’s so sad now, looking back, that I thought for so long I couldn’t have that here – when really it was my own fear holding me back. No matter what city I would have magically moved to, I would have been just as unhappy, because I just was unhappy. I wasn’t doing ANYTHING. When you are not pursuing your dreams you will always be unhappy. This is the most important thing I can ever tell anyone. So insanely simple and obvious, yet we let so many people and stupid insecurities hold us back from really doing it.
Because in my non-expert opinion, you don’t hate yourself because you have low self-esteem, or because other people were mean to you. You hate yourself because you don’t do anything. Not even you can just “love you for you.”
Do the math: How much of your time is spent consuming things other people made (TV, music, video games, websites) versus making your own? Only one of those adds to your value as a human being.
The big problem for me was I never really knew what my ‘dreams’ were. I’m still a little lost, but I know that’s a good thing. I always lived in the shadow of my sister, who knew exactly what she wanted to do with her life from the time she was 14. Being younger, I looked up to her and we enjoyed all the same things – so her dreams somehow always became my dreams, even though we couldn’t be more different.
Music was my passion probably from the womb, but performing and theatrics were just as important. When she and I would play house (which sounds so weird typing out now, but didn’t every girl pretend to be a grown up with their friends or siblings?) she would play the mom and I would play 18 different kids. Not even joking. I remembered all their personalities until (
she) we grew too old for that stuff.
As much as I was obsessed with music as a kid, I quickly realized my skills in that department were lacking, but my traumatic youth meant I had enough emotions bottled up inside me to give a damn good performance on stage. Theatre became my focus, my passion, and my love in high school (once I got past my unbearable shyness) but part of me knows that was because my sis did it first and loved it, and I just wanted to be a part of her success. But she was (and still is) a director, a control freak, a detail oriented type A – while I’ve always been a type B – the actor, the writer. Always late, wearing my heart on my sleeve, neurotic, passionate but lazy, looking for someone to tell me what to do and when to do it…
She didn’t end up moving to Toronto for school like she had planned on doing after high school, so it became imperative to me that I did go to university, move to Toronto, and do all these things she was intent on doing. But I wasn’t prepared to be here alone, without her, without my friends, without my parents, my teachers – completely isolated in the largest city in Canada.
I gave up on theatre in University because as good as I was, there was a thousand girls just as good as me, with more practice and much more confidence (which is what it’s really about).
So school dragged on, I grew unhappy with my program that wasn’t theatre – but that I decided to stick with because it allowed me to take music and film courses as well which was very important to me – and once I moved downtown I barely even went to class. All that money I spent and I missed half my lectures… makes me sick thinking about it. Make no mistake though, I loved York and have no regrets about going there – I just wish it wasn’t so far uptown. My professors were for the most part incredible – and even though I was a lazy commuter student, I learned so much there that completely shaped the way I think about art, music and culture – and that program is the reason I have this blog, which changed and now helps define my life.
To the point:
My life didn’t really start until after those first five years. Until after I graduated from University. Until after I had to start living on my own and really figuring it out. Until I realized I had reduced all my friends to Facebook status updates. And my god was it depressing. I graduated in 2008. Remember when the recession hit? Yeah. That’s exactly when it hit. All the promises of a great career and financially stability once you get a degree were a big, huge $25,000 debt lie.
2008 through 2010 were a huge struggle of contract work and that whole #GirlsHBO period of trying to figure out WTF I AM DOING WITH MY LIFE. I started this blog in late 2009 but had no clue what I was doing with it or what it would be, and it went silent for months on end because of that. It wasn’t until early 2011 that I really started to take it seriously, but once I did, it was like a light switched on in my brain, in my life. Everything changed. I felt like I was doing something. In possibly helping people pursue their dreams by writing about what they were doing, I was fulfilling my own. I had finally figured out a big chunk of my purpose in this life, and how I could use my passion for music and art in some useful way.
The isolation I felt in those first five years dissipated. I found a new group of friends and they have truly changed my life. And as easy as it was to ignore my old friends throughout college, the reason I was so unhappy was because I was doing just that – and putting no effort in being with them. I let the idea that they are off doing their own thing, at their own school with their new friends, stop me from even bothering. As soon as I was out of school, all I wanted was to be with my friends again, as the song says. But by then they truly did have their own lives, and trying to be with them meant the same conversation about days past, over and over again.
It’s okay to accept that people are meant to be in your life at different periods, and it doesn’t make you (or them) a bad person if things fade away and never feel like they once felt. Time changes everything, and if you’re not growing together, you’re growing apart. Relationships of all kinds are hard work, and if you stop working at them, there’s a good chance you won’t just be able to pick up where you left off, once you suddenly start to miss them.
So if you’re in those first 5 years of ‘adult life’ – remember to work really hard on maintaining those friendships that really do matter to you, or they will fade away. And don’t worry if you feel completely lost. Some people, like me, are late bloomers. The real magic happens when you stop holding onto what you thought you were gonna be, and take steps every day to create a life that makes you happy. Everything will fall into place once you do that.
In two weeks I will be starting a job I am super excited about, with the company I was begging to intern for 5 years ago when I finished my degree. And they asked me to come in for it. Hard work does pay off.